Once pregnant, how long do we wait for intimacy? My RE is saying it's okay at 6 weeks, after the first ultrasound. I'm just worried it will be too soon and would prefer to wait until after the first trimester.
Here are the responses (and mine). Note: I've changed names to protect everyone's privacy
Erica: I'm probably the wrong person to ask, but my long suffering husband had to wait almost a year! When I found out I was having twins, I didn't want to risk it early on in the pregnancy, then I felt too uncomfortable later on. After they were born (I had a caesar) I waited because I was quite sore for a few months...
Ellie: I can't quite remember, Jessica, but it's such a personal choice. There's no reason not to if your RE says it's safe after 6 wks but either of you (or both) might feel uncomfortable or unsure about it and, to my mind, that kind of defeats the purpose of intimacy... :)
Grace: i got preg with twins from ivf and my ob said to wait until atleast 20 wks so she could do an u/s and see exactly were the placentas were located because if one of them were in a bad place, intercourse would be too dangerous. So, we waited until then. we didnt care how long we had to wait. It was well worth it.
Grace: yw. we did EVERYTHING by the books lol. we actually got married 3 days before our transfer, and we still waited.
Lisa: I'm 20 weeks pregnant with twins and we have been having a more active than ever sex life since we found out. I have had ultrasounds at 6,8,10,12 and the last one was on thursday and we have never been told not to have sex. As a matter of fact in my "What to expect when you're expecting" book it says sex is actually good for working out your pelvic muscles to hold that baby in!
Taylor: I had ivf and have 2 year old twins we were told by the clinic as soon as i had finished my progesterone pessiers at 12 week to go for it lol and we did for some reason my sex drive was double it ever was hubby though that all his birthdays had come at once x
Cathy: My RE just wants you to wait for the beta and then you can resume sexual activity. I have heard others mention that their doctors want to see a heartbeat but you don't do that in a "normal" (lol) pregnancy ... I think you have to do what you are comfy with but don't make your husband feel unloved (:
Claire: Our clinic tells us to go for it n the 2ww!! but everything I read says not to in the 2ww and to wait til u see a heartbeat, but I really think its personal choice & what u feel comfy with xx
Dina I miscarried at 10 weeks and we had been to scared to have sex, I am a bug believer in if it's going to happen you cant stop it. So what feels right for the both of you
Lacey: i think its BJ's for the next 9 months !!! im sure your hubby wont mind :))))
Chelsea: Im going into my 12th week of pregnancy, and havent done any nookie yet! lol i dare not, hubby has been so understanding, im going to wait til about 20 weeks! lol,
Jeri: Lacy-LOL!!! Jess is all polite calling it "intimacy" and Lacy basically tells u to buy a bunch of chap-stick and say ahhhh! Hahaha! Lex- u are the best!! Thanks for making me smile :)
Laura: hubby always blames our failed ivf cycle on "being intimate" he wont come near me for the first 12 weeks now if we are successful, he blames himself, the first time i misscarried he was trying to convince me he bumbed the embryo out of its spot lol, i told him thats impossible but hes hell bent on being a born again virgin until we are given the all clear lol
Chelsea: I know a girl at work who miscarried in her 1st trimester, and she always blames it on sex she had, so that has scared me, and she advised me not to do it x
Denise: I was on bedrest for 4 weeks had no intercourse and I still miscarried , although gave lots of bj's ( ha ha lexy ) and still miscarried so I am convinced whatever you do it will happen anyway xxx love and baby dust to you all xxx
Stacy: We didn't wait or anything... we didn't have sex the whole TWW but after that it was back to normal. My GP said not to have sex until the 6 week ultrasound, but my fertility specialist never said anything like that, and we had sex right up until the night before delivery.
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